Our ego is like a trickster friend. Smart, but immature, he can be fun to hang around with, as long as you don't take everything he says for face value, but rather look at it from different angles before drawing your own conclusions.
Oftentimes the truth is just the opposite way: "Toughen up, be a warrior!" he says—when actually your loving tenderness would be needed most—and then the other way around.
Keep in mind that your ego is critical. Without it, we wouldn't exist as unique individuals, and we couldn't be loving. There would be no distinction between you and me, no subject-object relationship where we can say I love you.